Help!

I’ve ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS put other people first. My entire life my needs have come last. A character flaw… maybe. But I am also the most caring person you will ever meet. I cherish my family and friends and would do anything for them. I will be there in the middle of the night if someone asked me to.

But me asking for help--- that’s a different story.

The hardest part about preparing for this surgery is getting my life in order beforehand. I am organized to a fault. My friends laugh at me because my list have list. BUT, when they need to know the date of something, where to park for recital or what to bring to school… who do they call? You guessed it, ME! 

I love being the go-to gal! My organization brings me pleasure! I love the way a new fresh calendar feels, filling in all the dates… but I’m getting off subject.

Before I could muster up the courage to ask anyone for help I had to make lists. What camps the girls have, what they should wear to camp, what they need to take with them, who’s going to drive them… uh oh… I think I have a problem…no driving for at least 2 weeks… Time to ask for help!

I have managed to ask a few people for help with the girls. It is still not easy for me though. I’m learning to say yes, I need you and Thank You.

Today I gave in to help with feeding my family. I’ve been putting it off (kind of like getting on the scale). What I have is curable (thank-God!) Until today I didn’t see the need in giving in to people bringing dinner to my house every night. A few weeks in bed, no lifting for 6 weeks and eventually I’ll be better than new… why should I let people bring us food? But this to I’ve had to realize is best for my family. My DH hasn’t even boiled a pot of water in 15 years and my family has to eat. I also think it’s an easy thing that people can do to feel that they have helped.
There’s an amazing website called mealtrain that makes bringing dinner to people’s houses (for a number of reasons ie, new baby, surgery…etc) very easy. We’ll see how it works. There’s even a place to put a request for no green peppers!

What I have learned today…

It’s ok to ask for help. (Some) people don’t even mind!

For at least 2 weeks of my life I’m going to have to let go of my organization and most importantly control!

It’s nice when someone says, “I’ll be there to help you Thursday” Not, “Call me if you need me”

It’s ok to ask for help (still working on this one):) 